How to meet people online: start with your own happiness
Found yourself wondering how to meet people online? Stop. If you aren't getting the results you want from dating then start by addressing the product you are putting out there (you). To find the "love of our life" we have to live a life worth loving, which should be represented on our dating profile.
Self happiness = relationship happiness
People are not attracted to generic clichés that say nothing about everything, but instead people are attracted to happiness and optimism. If you aren't happy and optimistic then you shouldn't be online dating (to begin with). To be truly available for someone else we have to be happy with who we are.
Once we are happy as a single person it's easy to not date the wrong people, because we are happy on our own. If your happiness is contingent upon a relationship or another person, it's doomed to fail, because nothing should be more powerful than your own relationship with you. This is crucial advice. We have to get honest and ask ourselves "What am I actually trying to get from this online dating? Am I already happy and available to bring someone into my life?"
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It all starts with your dating profile. If your profile is trite and boring, then you're going to attract trite and boring people to go on trite and boring dates. It's simple supply and demand. Your profile should match and represent who you actually are. We are all amazing people, therefore an honest dating profile should be like a snowflake: each special and unique, different from each other. If we're all individual people, how come all dating profiles read the same? Because we are scared our uniqueness won't be accepted. The problem isn't online dating; the problem is our lack of courage in being confident in our own originality to offer other people.
Don't describe "everyone" on your dating profile, describe you. I read a profile that said (many say this) "I really like my job and spending time with my son." That says nothing about you. Those are your responsibilities and duties as an adult. You have kids, therefore it's your responsibility to take care of them. You have a job because you have to provide food and shelter. Those are facts of your life. It's boring to tell other people. Nobody cares. You think there is someone out there who is attracted to "The ONE who loves kids and her job. I can't believe I found her!"