Emily Waddell , 31.01.2019

How to Meet Women, Online and in Real Life

‘How to meet women’ is one of those eternal questions that seems to have no easy answer. It should be easy though, right? Interesting, available women surround us everywhere we go. You could walk into a shop, go out for a drink, walk down the street and see lots of opportunities to meet women but how do you meet them and have a successful conversation. It’s very easy to talk to women and end up inadvertently coming across like a needy stranger.

So, how do you have a relaxed, fun conversation with a woman you don’t know and end it with a phone number and a possible date? Find out our top tips and the best places that will answer that eternal question.

How to Meet Women IRL 101

If you’re reading this, you’ve likely arrived at the conclusion that bars and nightspots aren’t necessarily your best bet when it comes to meeting single women. Yes, you may have fond memories of your university days gallivanting around the union like some love-drunk Casanova, but that’s a bygone era. We’re not saying that you’ll never meet women on a night out, it’s just that they’re probably not interested in being a) picked up, or b) a long-term relationship.

That doesn’t mean that meeting girls offline is a total lost cause. Think about the places where conversation flows naturally, where it will be easy to approach them. Some of our top tips are below:

  • The Gym

When you’re thinking about how to meet women, the gym is usually one of the first places to pop to mind. Why? Because the gym is an open environment where chatting to your fellow fitness fanatics is commonplace. Stand out from the crowd, don’t try the stereotypical approach of lifting weights while trying to look effortlessly casual or attempting to help women with their workouts. These could work out, but it’s more likely that you’ll end up making a woman feel uncomfortable.

Our advice is to instead approach women when they’re in their comfort zone, i.e. classes. Exercise classes tend to be more female-focused and they also are geared toward collaborating and partnering up. Try a samba class or a yoga class, it’ll also show off that you’re interested in trying new things. Afterwards, strike a conversation with a single woman about the class and you’ll have a shared experience to talk about.

  • Volunteering

Nothing says ‘thoughtful’ or ‘kind’ like volunteering, which is why it’s one of the best places to meet women. Saving the world, caring about your fellow man? All traits that most women find attractive. Find a local charity or event where you can help out and you’ll soon meet your fellow volunteers whom you’ll bond with while you work. Volunteering really is one of the best options when you’re looking where to meet women. If you don’t meet anyone, then you still have a great hobby to discuss with any single women you do happen to meet. If you don’t meet anyone? No problem, another great thing to add to your online dating profile and you get the added bonus of feeling great for giving back! Win, win, win.

  • Classes

After hours educational classes are an excellent way to meet women for a number of reasons. Firstly, the school-like atmosphere for adults means every descends into doe-eyed teenagers. Secondly, everyone’s mind tends to wander and you end up making conversation with anyone rather than doing the actual work. Try and pick something you’re interested in and something that will be more female attendees, like cooking or dancing. Strike up a conversation and suggest a drink with the entire class so you can get to know everyone better, then split off if you meet someone you like. Attending a class is one of the best ways to meet single women.

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How To Meet Women Online

Unless you’ve somehow managed to avoid advances in modern technology over the last 20 years, then it’ll come as no surprise to hear that more and more singles are logging on to the internet in a bid to find love. That’s right, since the turn of the millennium, millions of single men and women have been browsing the web for that special someone.

That said, figuring out how to meet women online can be a bit confusing, especially if you’re new to the game. The first challenge you’ll encounter is choosing the right UK dating site to fit your needs. Trying to figure out which site will better suit your priorities can be exhausting, especially given the sheer multitude of dating sites out there. However, it pays to do a bit of research at this stage; are you looking for a casual relationship or a do you want to start something more meaningful?

EliteSingles is a bespoke dating platform can be tailored to suit your needs as most of our community is made of educated, busy professionals looking for long-lasting love. It goes without saying that meeting single women who are also looking for a serious relationship online is a lot easier than approaching them out of the blue.

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How To Attract Women Online and IRL

A lot of the tips and tricks we’ve given you on how to meet women are easy to apply to everyday life. But, the difference between these opportunities being successful can come down to one individual trait. Confidence. Confidence is incredibly important when you’re meeting women online and offline. However, there’s a fine line between cocky and self-assured, amusingly self-deprecating and timid, so how do you know what’s the best approach?

It may sound simple, but believing in yourself and ultimately liking yourself is the best and healthiest route to natural confidence. A lot of men’s advice websites might give you lots of pointers around being dominant in your body language or generally being as macho as possible all the time. But, is that feasible to maintain and is that your personality? Don’t depart from who you are, instead try and emphasise your best qualities and minimise your lesser ones.

Here a few quick tips on how to be your best self without forgetting your uniqueness:

Dress to Impress

If you’re new to the single market, chances are your wardrobe hasn’t been updated in a while. Buy some new clothes to give yourself a new lease on life, if you’re not sure what suits you then ask some friends about which of your clothes they like best. Or, hire a personal shopper, someone who's an expert in clothes can give you advice on what suits you.

Be a Good Listener

Sometimes you can get so focused on making a good impression that the actual ‘enjoying the date’ part can go out of the window! If you’re feeling nervous, don’t focus on yourself and instead try and learn as much as possible about your potential partner. Listening is an attractive quality and is a good way to take the focus off you so you can enjoy the conversation.

Relax, Relax, Relax

Dating is a journey, not a destination. They’ll be setbacks, detours, and new experiences along the way. It’s important to not treat every interaction as monumentally important otherwise you can stress yourself out if you’re not successful every time. Remember, dating is about finding someone genuinely compatible, so make sure you’re having a good time above all. Remember to make time for yourself to debrief and relax.

Now you’ve heard our top tips on how to meet women, it’s time you actually started doing it! Sign up for EliteSingles and start meeting single, professional women today.