Ever since the 1967 film The Graduate, this partnership has had its allure, but it’s rooted in the cliches and tropes that haunt most unique modern pairings. There are plenty of real-world examples of older women dating younger men and most of those examples lead to long-term relationships, commitment and marriage.
Real-world examples of women dating older men:
Hugh Jackman (49) and his partner Deborra Lee-Furness (62) have been together for over 20 years.
Actor Aaron Johnson (27) has been with Director Sam Taylor-Wood (50) since he was 18.
President Emmanuel Macron (39) and Brigitte Macron (64) had a controversial start when they met when he was 16.
The very word ‘cougar’ is most certainly moot. Without getting too entangled in semantics, EliteSingles resident psychologist, Salama Marine, is quick to discuss this point. “Prejudices have a tendency to stick, even if society is changing,” she says, “calling an older woman a cougar isn’t meaningless, it’s a way of defining her as a predator who’s only interested in hunting down younger prey.” Despite some of this negativity, the reality of older women dating younger men is actually long-term stability according to recent studies.
Why does older women dating younger men work so well?
Older women dating younger men is one of the few partnerships that has been fetishised in popular culture that actually all-but-guarantees long-term success. In their 2006 study, the University of Maine interviewed eight married couples where the wife was between 10 and 17 years older than the husband. Their findings revealed that both partners were content and happy with their relationship.
Older women dating younger men is also far more common than previously thought, in a recent study by McGill University it was found that approximately 13 per cent of sexually active women between 35 and 44 have slept with a man at least 5 years their junior.
Not only did they discover that middle-aged women who’d been previously married were more likely to seek a younger mate, they also showed that older woman/younger man relationships are rarely brief flings. On average, when an older woman and younger man start dating, the relationships last two years. So, if women from all walks of life are ignoring the stigma and are happy romancing younger men, it begs the question; what’s the appeal?