The Practical Guide to Getting Engaged
It’s simple math. Our members are all here looking for lasting love – add that to our intelligent matchmaking system and, naturally, you get lots of great couples who go the distance with each other. Getting engaged, and eventually married, is just one part of the success stories we help start, so we thought we’d offer our best tips for popping the question – with a little expert help, of course!
Co-founder and planner at innovative proposal planning company The Heart Bandits, Michele Velazquez is an expert in field of engagement ideas. Offering EliteSingles a wealth of top tips and insight, read her advice on getting engaged right here…
Engagement Ideas & Advice with Michele Velazquez
The first step to getting engaged is – of course – being sure that you’re both ready for it. Michele advises that there are two ways of telling; “The first is that you TRULY know each other…” she says, “anyone can seem perfect for 6 months!” Then, Michele adds “the way you know you should propose is that even when you see that person at their worst, you cannot imagine your life without them.”
For Michele, making your engagement unique is the most important thing. She says “We all want to believe that our partner has been dreaming up ways to give us the absolute most special proposal,” before adding “No one wants to think that their partner just Googled a generic proposal idea.” Her advice is simple: personalise your engagement. Ideas from the internet can be a great jumping off point, but you can easily make it more special by taking her to the place where you first said ‘I Love You’ or surrounding her with her favourite flowers. “Remember,” Michele says, “you can upgrade a diamond but you can never change a memory. That‘s our motto.”
It pays to think about how you’ll capture the special moment in advance too. “With social media being a part of our everyday life, you MUST have a photograph of your marriage proposal” Michele rightly points out. Your memory of the moment will of course last a lifetime, but it’s great being able to share it with your loved ones! If you’re able, hiring a professional photographer is a great idea. But, Michele says, “if you don't have the budget for a photographer, ask a friend, ask a stranger, or take a selfie!”
Think first and foremost about the kind of person your partner is – as Michele warns us ‘there is no proposal that is right for everyone, that is for sure!” For example orchestrating a flash mob in a shopping mall if you’re partner is shy is sure to send them running for the hills. “If your partner is introverted,” Michele advises, “Make sure you choose a proposal location that is special to you. Some private locations may be a private room in a restaurant, hotel room with a view, or a secluded area by the lake.” There’s no single right way to propose, but there are plenty of wrong ways! Never lose sight of what your partner would enjoy and feel comfortable with.
When asked to recall her favourite proposal Michele says “we’ve planned thousands of marriage proposals so it is hard to choose just one!” After much consideration, Michele confides that a recent favourite was a bubble-themed proposal in an impressive private room at a hotel in San Francisco – “He told me that they are always in their own bubble, so I created a whole bubble theme letting her know that he wanted to stay in their bubble with her forever.” Special, personal engagement ideas – or themes – like this one can help all the details fall into place, and it’s certainly worth thinking about the message you want to convey, how you express love for one another day-to-day and the recurring patterns in your relationship. Remember, this is one part of a much longer success story! If you’re getting engaged and looking for the perfect way to pop the question, the answer is probably already in front of you!