Valentine’s day ideas: how to find love
With help from EliteSingles’ Partner Psychologist, Sam Owen, we looked at a range of Valentine’s Day ideas that will appeal to you – no matter what your situation.
Valentine’s Day ideas for singles
There’s a pretty persistent trope that shows what it’s like to be single on Valentine’s Day and ‘bitter‘ would just about sum it up! According to countless films and television episodes, if you are single on the 14th, you had better be prepared to mope, curse all happy couples and drown your sorrows in either alcohol or ice-cream.
Yet, this absolutely doesn’t have to be the case. You can legitimately enjoy being single on Valentine’s Day. Ideas of how to do this vary, but one great idea is to stay in and indulge in the fact that, when you’re single, you’re in charge. In other words, be your own Valentine! You choose the menu, you choose the movie, you can even get yourself a gift that – surprise – is just what you wanted!
The important thing is to remember to treat yourself like you would a partner. After all, you deserve to be showered in love, even when you’re single. If you treat yourself right, then you are bound to have a great day: it’s that simple. As Sam Owen points out, ‘’Valentine’s Day is what you make of it…the choice is truly yours.’’ And yes, okay, treating yourself might involve a little ice-cream – your choice of flavour of course!
Valentine’s Day when you’re looking for love
If you’ve had enough self-indulgence and you’re looking for someone to share your life with, then, really, you couldn’t pick a more loved-up time than Valentine’s Day. However, wishing it doesn’t mean that romance will just fall into your lap. Indeed, if you’re serious about finding love, there are a couple of active steps you need to take to increase your chances of finding a Valentine’s Day date.
To begin with, you need to put yourself into the right frame of mind for dating – and this means dealing with any accumulated baggage. Sam Owen says that ‘’if you have a relationship that you’ve never gotten full closure over, do something to help bring that chapter to a close on Feb 13th or Feb 14th so that Valentine’s Day can be a celebration of a proper start to your new life where you are only looking forwards.’’
Once you have that fresh mindset, the fun can really begin. Owen points out that, single or couple, it is hard to escape the pervasiveness of Valentine’s Day – so why not use that fact to your advantage and bond with others in the same situation? She suggests that singles should ‘’log on to online dating more frequently and…have some fun banter with other daters about being single on Valentine’s Day.’’ She also points out that, ‘’whether you’re male or female, this time of year should make asking someone on a date much easier so if you can normally be shy about this, take advantage.’’
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