Signed, sealed, delivered: Brits want love letters for Valentine’s Day

This February 14th, you can forget the flowers and chuck the chocolates – our new survey has revealed what people really want for Valentine’s Day: handwritten love letters. What’s more, far from being a dying art, 85% say they’ve written heartfelt love letters in the past, and Brits are still far more likely to treasure a handwritten letter than a love text.¹

Sealed with a kiss: Brits are smitten with love letters

It’s official: even in this technological age, love letters are still one of the UK’s most-loved romantic gestures. In fact, in our recent survey of 1000 Brits, love letters were revealed as the gift-most-wanted for Valentine’s Day 2017. Of those surveyed – 56% – said that their dream present would be a heartfelt love letter or poem; which means that love letters are a more desired gift than being taken to a fine restaurant (chosen by 27%) or getting flowers and chocolates (picked by 11%).

What’s more, our members don’t just want to get love letters, they’re giving them too: 85% of those in the survey said that they believe love letters to be a vital part of a happy relationship.

The greatest love letters in history

So what makes a love letter so special? Perhaps history can tell us. We asked those in the survey to vote on their favourite love letters of all time, and we’ve collected the best below. They’re the perfect addition to any Valentine’s Day celebrations.

Not only are these letters beautiful, they’re the perfect inspiration if you’re thinking of writing something heartfelt of your own. Flick though our slideshow and feel the romance!

How to write a love letter

Feeling inspired after those beautiful words? It might be time to join the busy ranks of letter writers. Before you do, however, it’s important to remember a few of the factors that go into crafting the perfect love letter:

1. Write from the heart

Don’t fret about finding endlessly creative ways to say I love you – a great love letter doesn’t have to be all polished prose. In fact, 77% of survey respondents said that they actually preferred raw passion to poetic writing, indicating that a letter written straight from the heart is more special than one that focuses on evocative imagery.

2. Honesty is definitely the best policy

Similarly, only 10% of Brits think that beautiful writing is the most important part of a romantic letter. Honesty is far more valued: four in five people (82%) say that honesty is the most important thing to try for.

3. Use pen and paper

The medium matters when writing to your beloved: 61% of our members say that handwritten, paper letters are the most romantic. This by far eclipses the 4% of Brits who think that text messages are the romantic medium to beat.

4. Send your love letter only once you’re already dating

It’s also important to pay attention to when in the relationship you send your love letters. 21% of British men said that they would use a love letter to express interest in someone before dating them. However, only 11% of women said this was appropriate, with 89% preferring to wait until they’re exclusively dating someone. Perhaps these eager Romeos are best to err on the side of patience!

5. Know that the recipient might just treasure it forever

One final tip: if you do write your sweetie a love note, know that it might stick around. Indeed, Brits are likely to treasure their love letters, sometimes forever: 84% of men and a huge 90% of women think that it’s perfectly acceptable to keep love letters from an old flame. What’s more, 56% of men and 63% of women think it’s fine to keep old letters even when you’re with someone new.

Do you want to meet someone to exchange love letters with? EliteSingles can help – register with us today!


1. All survey results based on an EliteSingles’ Love Letters’ study, January 2017. Sample size: 1000 UK singles.

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