Dating a Single Parent: The Ultimate Guide
A staggering 80% of our members1 would happily date a single parent, but how surprising is that really? Highly educated, and between the age of 30-55, our members are genuinely looking for long-lasting love, and are perhaps more understanding and decent for it! That said, dating a single parent presents its own set of unique challenges…
The first thing to accept is that dating a single parent is a game-changer; forget everything you’ve learnt about the ‘rules’ of dating to this point, because many of them just won’t apply here. Here – with top tips on single mum dating, single dad dating and meeting the kids – is our ultimate guide to dating a single parent:
Single Mum Dating
- Don’t play games; the consensus is that single mums don’t have time to be messed around. Thinking of dating a single mum but not sure if you want children in your life? Then maybe you’re not ready for the responsibility of this situation. The golden rule is this: don’t play games… leave that to the kids!
- Never patronize her, she doesn’t need saving; if she’s got it together enough to manage her life, her kids’ lives and still find the time for dating, she’s probably doing just fine. There’s clearly no need to feel sorry for her. Instead, be there to surprise her, treat her and sweep her off of her feet once in a while – every woman deserves that.
- Forget (and forgive) the stigma; single mum dating, you’ll find, still carries with it some negative connotations. If you find that your friends and family don’t understand it forgive them this, and politely explain that all the negative images of your relationship they have are not the full picture. Yes, her life is probably more complex, she may have a busier schedule. But, she’s also probably more committed, nurturing and responsible than your average date. If you’re happy that’s all that matters.
- Her free time is at a premium; you understand that her kids are her priority. Great! Now embrace the fact that you might not be #2 on her list either – there’s her career, her friends, the rest of her family, and that’s all before you even consider her leisure time! Truth is, like any normal human being, she’ll also need some down time. Respect her need to chill out a bit now and again and don’t nag her to see you if she can’t. You’re an important piece of a much bigger jigsaw.
- Babysitters are your friends, so don’t mistreat them; for the times in which you can get out of the house and enjoy a date night, make sure you get your partner home on time. Leave wild long nights out where they belong: in your youth! Good babysitters are hard to find, so once you’ve gotten a good one, make sure you don’t scare them away – in the long run you’ll be thankful to have someone you can rely on when you do want a night to yourselves.
- READ MORE: here's an in-depth look at dating a single mum